Friday, December 31, 2010
The coming year is going to bring a clear explanation of IWIL and a new subject each month. I've been working on this through the holidays and it has really come together. In January, I'm going to share how IWIL came to life and tell my husband Dave's story. Not only will you see how dreams can come back to life, but you will get real, doable tips to dust off you dreams and bring them back to life.
It's not too late to share you Dream-Not-Come-True and let me feature your story. Just think, it will be a whole month of personal IWIL coaching. Comment or e-mail me and share your story! For now, here's my toast to you: "May you be healthy, happy, and surrounded by love for this coming new year."
Wednesday, December 29, 2010
All the heavy snow on the in the east is wreaking havoc for holiday travelers. There's no doubt it's frustrating, but it is what it is. When there's nothing you can do to control a situation, find things you can do to be more comfortable. It's easier said than done sometimes but in the end, the grief will all be for not.
Monday, December 27, 2010
Saturday, December 25, 2010
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Friday, December 17, 2010
Wednesday, December 15, 2010
Just what is this app? The First Data eGift Social app is an innovative new application from First Data that lets people quickly and easily send real gift items (like an ice cream treat, a cup of coffee, a sandwich, or a movie ticket) from some of their favorite stores to their friends on Facebook or by e-mail. Friends are notified by e-mail, Facebook wall posts or both. The message includes an account number that is redeemable for a real gift at participating merchant locations.
This is a great service for so many reasons: You can give something small from eGift Social and combine it with another more personal gift. There is such a great selection of retailers participating - the places that families shop everyday! But the best thing is you can shop via Facebook. I LOVE this! Check it out yourself - eGift Social on Facebook.
“I wrote this review while participating in a blog tour campaign by Mom Central Consulting on behalf of First Data and received an eGift gift card to thank me for taking the time to participate.”
Monday, December 13, 2010
In January I'm going to introduce you to my husband Dave's dream that he's had since he was a fourteen year old boy. We're going to talk about when his dream was born, what he did to pursue it and what ultimately lead to him believing he would never see this dream come true. We will also look at other ways Dave could live this dream even if not in it's original form. This is going to not only be really fun, but it's going to give all of you a real feel for what IWIL is all about and how you can apply it in your life.
If you have a dream or goal that somehow seems like it's just not in the cards, e-mail me and I may use it as one of my monthly topics. Just think, you could have a whole month of IWIL dedicated to you!
I hope you are having a wonderful holiday season and making the most of time with loved ones.
Friday, December 10, 2010
Friday, December 3, 2010
“I wrote this review while participating in a blog tour by Mom Central Consulting on behalf of Soma Intimates and received a pair of Personality PJs to thank me for taking the time to participate.”
Wednesday, December 1, 2010
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Wednesday, November 24, 2010
Facebook and Twitter are two of the most used social media sites yet they work completely differently. Facebook is like a networking mixer or cocktail party, you meander in, look around, see who’s there and reply to people who have left you messages, or as we say, written on your wall. It’s a leisurely pace. Twitter on the other hand is like a super highway, always moving and sometimes fast!
Twitter, for as many people as it has signed up, is a really small community of regulars. When you join in and start following people, you will see what they do, what they are doing, who else they are talking with and more importantly, building real relationships. Where else can you go and chat personally with CEO’s of major companies and A-list movie stars? Big businesses are offering specials and freebies only on these sites, they are hiring, and doing business with smaller businesses they can see are using these same tools and resoures. It’s not unusual for big business to take the Twitter opportunity to learn from the younger, more tech savvy generation of entrepreneurs – and their customers! Twitter and all the other social media sites are about connecting and making lasting connections, not only for business but also for pleasure. Twitter is the super highway of social media – Merge on, keep up, enjoy the journey, exit – Repeat often! Wonderful.
Follow me on twitter: @Kdpartak
Monday, November 22, 2010
Dave will be the first to tell you beef jerky and everyday snacks are okay, but there are so many other things that make a Soldier smile! Send Hickory farms to service men and women by visiting http://www.hickoryfarms.com/
The Home for the Holidays Gift Box is filled with Hickory Farms signature beef as well as Italian Recipe Summer Sausage. An array of 4 cheeses and sweet hot, honey pineapple mustards and savory crackers bring it all together. Remember, this gift box, as well as all gifts found in the “Military Gifts” category of the Hickory Farms website, include free military shipping to military APO/FPO addresses on select products, allowing our troops across the globe to share in holiday traditions. If you find a local store or kiosk, pick up an extra box and you'll be ready when you have guests drop by...either for a snack or a gift!
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Friday, November 19, 2010
Sometimes you just have to stop working on a problem so the obvious (and likely best) solution can appear. Many times the only way I can truly stop, is to sleep. I wake up feeling less of the pressure and seeing more of my options, usually with one shining brightly!
Friday, November 12, 2010
Without a doubt, leaving our three-year old son Mason to head to work is not always easy. There are days when Mason’s not sick, but maybe just not feeling emotionally up to preschool. When we have those days—which we all do—I struggle with wanting to call in sick and stay home with him, snuggle with him, revel in a play-day with no stresses. Just “Mommy and Mason” time. But I don’t. I get him ready for school and myself ready for work and we head out the door. I feel there is great value in teaching our children that we all have choices, and with those choices comes responsibility. I can choose to stay home with him, but he will miss out on valuable education and socialization, and I, in turn, will miss out on not only the accomplishments I achieve at work, but also providing a higher quality of life for our family.
I recently learned a valuable lesson about our perceptions of a stay-at-home mother vs. a working mother. I rose early, knowing it was going to be a full day that would require precision scheduling. Unfortunately, Mason’s preschool was closed for two presidential Monday holidays in a row; when this sort of scheduling conflict occurs, my husband Dave and I each take a Monday off. It was my turn to take Monday off, but I just had to be at work. Besides holding a full-time outside sales job, I also have a nearly full-time real estate career. That Monday, I had to be at my sales job plus had a full schedule of house showings for two separate families.
I reviewed my day closely and realized that I could schedule office time in the morning from home. I asked my dear friend and Mason’s godmother Dahlynn to meet us at the local mall at noon sharp; Mason would get to have a special afternoon out with his “Auntie.” While he was with Dahlynn, I could make three scheduled sales calls. Timing was everything.
Like clockwork, Dahlynn met us at the mall. I whipped through my on-site sales calls across town and then returned to the mall for a quick lunch with Mason and his auntie, who had bought him a yellow helium balloon and a teddy bear for Valentine’s Day. With kisses goodbye to his auntie, Mason and I then stopped at the real estate office to pick up my listings and lock box key and then headed home to freshen up. We used the potty, combed our hair and were out the door again in a matter of minutes.
The two of us showed several houses to my first set of clients. I was amazed to hear my three-year-old son showing the clients the size of the bedroom closets. After the showings to the first family, the plan was to race Mason home to have dinner with Dave, who would be home from work by then, and then I would leave again to meet the second family to show more houses.
On the trip home, I reviewed the day thus far. Guilt slowly started to creep into my mind; was this all too much for him? A busy morning at home, dropping him at the mall, carting him to the real estate office and then to the showings—did he understand all of this running and going, going, going, or did he think his working mom was crazy?
We pulled into the driveway at the same time Dave was getting home from work. Before I could say a word or even begin to express my concerns about feeling guilty, Mason yelled to his dad from his car seat, “Daddy, Daddy! Mommy took me to play with Aunt Dahlynn and look what she bought for me for Balentines day, a bear, Daddy, a teddy bear, with a balloon, we played and looked at toys and then Mommy came to have lunch with us and then we went to see houses and I helped Mommy at work with the houses, Daddy, it was the best, fun day ever!” He said all of this in one big, long, breath like only a three year old can do.
My guilt of being a busy working mom with two full-time jobs instantly subsided. I realized that regardless of my hectic schedule, Mason was truly happy. His running dialog to his father taught me that he likes being a part of my day-to-day life, whether it’s a very busy work day, a lazy Saturday, a good day, or even a bad day. But most importantly, Mason taught me that any day is a great day, as long as we can be together.
Wednesday, November 10, 2010
I love that Mason has time off during the holidays and I'm incredibly lucky because I work from home, so when he has minimum days and no school it's not so tough for me to adjust. This hasn't always been the case and when I worked outside of the home, it was tough to work out. I know stay-at-home moms who feel it's all very simple, you have kids, stay home and raise them. I guess until you are faced with the true financial need (to just get by, we're not living the life of luxury!), you may never fully get it. For me, I've always worked and sure, there have been times I've wondered if Mason suffered in any way, but for many reasons I believe we are all just fine.
I'll post a story that I wrote for Chicken Soup for the Working Mom's Soul on Friday. And for the record, whether you leave the house to go earn a paycheck or stay at home and don't get paid, if you are a mom, you are working!
Monday, November 8, 2010
We spend too much time worrying about things that in the end,
Friday, November 5, 2010
~ Wayne Dyer
Wednesday, November 3, 2010
Social media has opened so many doors for small businesses and entrepreneurs to reach the masses for darn near free. Sites like facebook, LinkedIn and twitter (to name just a few) are connecting average Joe's like me to CEO's of major companies and dialogue is happening. That's exciting! The problem as I see it, is this social media arena is still so new that people don't know how to do it. Oh sure, they can create an account and post about their business, but they don't know that etiquette applies in the social media arena just like it does in the face-to-face world. It's possible that it's even more important because it's so much easier (and faster) for someone to "unfriend," "unfollow," or disconnect from you. It's my opinion that you have to mix some of who you are personally with what it is you do for a living because if you don't why not just have a web site? The whole point of social media is that it's social - to me, that errors on the side of personal. As my good friend and social media expert Kevin DeSoto says, "You have to humanize your brand." How can you do that in the social media arena if you aren't getting a little bit personal?
The other piece of this equation for me is that people who used to be my personal friends are so caught up in their online presence, that they simply don't communicate with me on a personal level anymore. At first I figured we must not have really been friends to begin with, but that's not the case. There seems to be some prestige in the number of friends or followers that one has, but nary a "Hello! How are you?" comes across the line to those of us who really are their friends. A personal e-mail comes only to ask about a charitable donation, or to share with me how the class they have for sale is right up my alley! It only costs this many thousand dollars
Here's my thought, why don't we have one online place for our business and another for our personal interactions? People who want to be a part of your business will be there and that's not to say they can't be your friends, too. When it's time to stop working, stop working - on facebook, twitter, LinkedIn, at the restaurant, or at home on the phone. Put your iPhone away when you are sitting with live bodies who are there to be with you. Connect with these people and share something personal, something that you wouldn't necessarily share at your place of business.
Utilize these amazing tools to enhance and grow your business, but come back to the smaller, more intimate circle of the people you love. Finding balance in business is knowing when to go all out and land that big account and when to hang the "Closed" sign and go home - virtually or literally. Just my two cents.
Monday, November 1, 2010
Looking back over three years worth of posts about things I feel are important makes me realize how glad I am that I do take action. My personal blog The Monday Motivator (you can access it by using the link to the right) is another great example, Mason's entire life is documented week-by-week. Can you think of a better gift to a child? It truly is amazing when you realize that just a few small actions each day will lead to years of happiness and even more joy to look forward to!
As an anniversary gift, choose one of the things you want to pay more attention to and do something today! One small action will lead to another, and another until you have something concrete! Do it, go, right now! Come back and share with me what you did. I can't wait to hear!
Friday, October 29, 2010
I'll post pictures on Monday and share all about our weekend. Do you have plans? I believe that planning and anticipating what's to come is what makes our lives rich and full. Heck, in many cases the anticipation is better than the event itself!
Speaking of plans, I'm planning an Intentional Winning In Life group that will meet twice a month for three months. I'm getting a group of people together to test out my ideas and see if people really can fulfill their dreams. I believe they can, we can! I'll keep you posted on our progress and hopefully this will grow into something everyone can do. In the meantime, Happy Halloween!
Wednesday, October 27, 2010
Monday, October 25, 2010
We are definitely taking the LISTERINE October Oral Care Challenge with Mason. The goal of the challenge is to brush, floss, and rinse with mouthwash twice a day for three weeks. We're good for twice a day most days, but for three weeks I will make sure we make it happen twice a day everyday! Join in and share your experience.
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“I wrote this review while participating in a blog campaign by Mom Central on behalf of LISTERINE and REACH and received products to take the Oral Care Challenge. I also received a "Global Giving gift card" to thank me for taking the time to participate.”
Friday, October 22, 2010
Fast forward to today. My dream is to make my living as a Speaker teaching my Intentional Winning concepts, sharing my journey as an Entrepreneur with ZipperBack Gloves, and right now educating folks about loan modification. As I speak up (pun intended!) and share with people that I want to speak, as soon as they ask for my resume or ask for samples of my work, I cower. I find myself right back in that 15 year old girls body feeling like I'm not enough. I know I'm enough! I know I'm a dynamic speaker with wonderful, useful things to share.
My point to all of this is that no matter how self-assured one is, there is always room for doubt. The trick is to send it on it's way as soon as it pops up. When I recently had someone ask for my speaking resume, I waited to reply. I waited to let my knee-jerk reaction subside so I could send a reply that depicts the real me, the me that is qualified to speak on their radio show. I sent them an excellent reply. I didn't get the gig, but I didn't back out either, so to me that's a win!
It's okay to have doubts and feel fear as long as you can also feel sure and confident when faced with the former. You can, I know you can because I can and I'm no different than you are. We are all magnificent and more than enough!
Wednesday, October 20, 2010
Monday, October 18, 2010
My plan is to work together to get the ball rolling on making your dreams come true and see some significant results within 90 days. If we start in November, that will have you well on your way by February 1st. How cool will it be to be two-thirds of the way to living your dreams instead of making a resolution to start on January 1st? Come on, I'll show you my plan and help you find a way to make your dream come true, no matter where you are in your life, you can do it!
If you don't want to join my group, but would like my two cents, send me your dream and why you haven't pursued or achieved it and I may select your dream for my blog in 2011. You don't have to send some major essay, just what your dream is/was and why you didn't follow through. Dave's is that he has always dreamed of being a Park Ranger in a national park. He got detoured by marriage and military deployments. It's that simple!
Friday, October 15, 2010
Thank you to IWIL reader Michele for this quote. She shared with me about the J.K. Rowling quote and as I read this, I got chills. At the rate I'm going, I should be wildly successful very soon! Big Friday Smiles!
Wednesday, October 13, 2010
- Each month starting in January, I plan to take a specific topic, the topic of your dreams placed on hold, and show you in twelve posts (give or take) how to put that dream back to work making you happy!
- I need you to share with me what it was you wanted to be when you grew up, or a dream you realized later in life that for one reason or another you stopped pursuing. I also need to know why you came to believe you couldn't see it through.
- I also need you to put this call out to everyone you know in hopes that with your blessing, they will share their dreams "not" come true with me, too.
I'm going to pick ten of the most popular topics and two of the most unusual to work with next year. This will then become the foundation of what Intentional Winning In Life books will be about. Intentional Winning In Wine Making. Intentional Winning In Writing. Intentional Winning In Nursing. You get the idea. This is going to be really fun, and if I use your topic, how cool will it be to have a real road map to making your dreams come true?
Will you help me? Send me your dreams and why you are not pursuing them and send this request out to your family and friends. I can't wait to make things happen as this year wraps up and we welcome a new year!
Monday, October 11, 2010
- Make a list of words that represent my values and hang it on my bathroom mirror. This will serve as a reminder at the beginning and end of my day.
- Keep a running log of one thing I've done each day to move me closer to my goals. These could be things like making a phone call to someone who could mentor me, sending out media kits to new prospects, or going to a yoga class.
- Continually surrounding myself with inspired people. We are what we think and when we are sharing our daily space with people who are making their dreams come true, you will continue to be inspired.
Friday, October 8, 2010
Wednesday, October 6, 2010
It's not so much about the day itself, but how you see it. In fact, isn't that the way it is with everything in life? You get to choose how you see things, the good, the bad, and the ugly. There are really bad things that happen to all of us and for me, it's important to recognize that it's not personal, it's just life. Look for the lessons in those really tough times and keep moving to the brighter side, the good times, the things memories are made of!
Monday, October 4, 2010
Friday, October 1, 2010
Wednesday, September 29, 2010
The lady bugs are clearly not gems in the literal sense, but they are in that they are a symbol for luck. Hard work + Perseverance = Luck!
Monday, September 27, 2010
Saturday, September 25, 2010
Thursday, September 23, 2010
Monday, September 20, 2010
Even in the light of being side-tracked and kicked to the curb, you can still see something good in the rubble. For me, I see that I have the where-with-all to keep going, to get back to what it was I planned, and in the end, chuckle that it really wasn't all that bad anyway! What about you? What do you do when life derails your perfectly planned day, week, month, okay, I gotta say it, year? Do tell and there will be extra points for making me laugh!
Friday, September 17, 2010
Wednesday, September 15, 2010
There are many things that we do that start and stop. Lots of little journey's make up a big, collective journey that leads us to destinations that start new journeys! If you don't ever celebrate the little successes because they are not the destination, you will never celebrate.
Monday, September 13, 2010
Saturday, September 11, 2010
Wednesday, September 8, 2010
I made plans to have an amazing week, get so much done and instead, I wound up in the emergency room with Mason and a broken arm. Oh, don't worry, it's only a fracture but now there's an appointment with an ortho, another for a cast, another appointment for x-rays, and all of this is time that I am not doing what I had planned. I adore Mason and it breaks my heart to see him hurt. I will do whatever it takes to get him the best care available. In the meantime, God is laughing!
Monday, September 6, 2010
Friday, September 3, 2010
I'm sorry to say, that my current disease (not literally, I'm completely healthy!) is not going away. There doesn't seem to be a pill to cure my ill, or at least I haven't found it yet. I'll keep looking as giving up is not an option! What do you do when faced with situations like this?
Wednesday, September 1, 2010
Now I'm not one to let one little road block stop me, but I have to say, this one keeps coming back! I know this simply means I have not found the right solution but a girl will get worn out. This week I think I've found a way to do what I want to do while still staying within the letters of the law, so to speak. I'm hopeful, but what if this still isn't it? I'll huff and I'll puff and I'll put my head under the covers until I cool off and can get back to the drawing board. What do you do when you hit a repeated barrier? Share with me and inspire me to keep moving.
I'll share more about what this situation is, hopefully "was" when I finally do find my way and do the good I'm trying to do!
Monday, August 30, 2010
~Thomas D. Willhite~
Friday, August 27, 2010
Wednesday, August 25, 2010
Monday, August 23, 2010
I pointed out in the last post about how Dave seems to be "happy" when he is feeling life's pain. That wasn't to bash Dave, it was to merely point out what I have been observing as we have begun tackling some of our personal issues. The other point I wanted to make about the habit of the way we see things is that the "Bright Side" is not always the best outlook. There are times when I immediately go to what is good in a situation and miss what I really need to see.
I could be called gullible or naive' in that I will automatically gravitate to what is good or how good can come from the bad when in fact, it might be better to recognize that the situation or person I am dealing with sucks! It's bad and we need to address that it's bad. For me that means I made a poor choice or led us into the bad situation. I don't like that feeling...much the same way I suspect Dave doesn't like the feeling of "happy-happy, joy-joy" that he sees me expressing so often. It's not that he doesn't want to be happy, I believe he feels it can't be real when it's as frequent as it is with me. It can and it is, but there may be times when it's not as certain as it could be.
So here is where we are...he's asking himself if he gets off on the pain while I'm pondering if I'm masking my inability to deal with the negative feelings by smiling and looking at the bright side. What do you think, are these habits that we can break or do you think there's more to it? I'll let you know what we discover as we make our way through this journey.
Friday, August 20, 2010
I see things through rose colored glasses, almost always seeing the bright side. Dave tends to lean toward what is not pleasing him, the things he wants to be see improved. Now don't get me wrong, there are things I want to be better but I don't talk about it much, I just do what I think it will take to change it. Dave is not the doer in the same way I am.
Here is where the habit theory comes in, we both have our knee-jerk reaction to whatever it is. For me, it's usually whatever is good in the situation and what's not, well, I do something about it. Dave will typically get right to verbalizing whatever it is about the thing or situation that he doesn't like. He may add in something positive or of value, but going down the "what's wrong" road first, makes the compliment seem contrived, basically, not sincere. It's my observation too, that Dave doesn't do anything about what's wrong. He simply wants to make the point and keep living with the pain. This is clearly a habit, the way we have both done things for so long, it's just what we do...how we see things.
What do you think, is your outlook on your day to day life a habit? Can you change it? Do you want to? I have one more piece to this theory that I'll post next week. Let me know what you think, I really am interested.
Monday, August 16, 2010
Wednesday, August 4, 2010
I have to, at some point, get a new laptop but for now, my posts will not be three times per week. Mason goes back to school in the next three weeks and I figure I will push harder to get back to work then!
Let's just call this a little August Hiatus! Why don't you take one, too. Smiles!
Monday, July 19, 2010
Monday, July 12, 2010
It's how I see the comparisons between life and summertime.
"Make the most of each warm day, just as we must make the most
of each day with our children.
Just like the days that seem so long,
our kids sweet childhood days are gone in an instant.
Enjoy the warm nights that make us want to wear very little.
Take that same sexy feeling while wearing so little,
and passionately kiss your spouse.
Feed your daily life the energy that summer fills you with. The energy that's made up of all your life's summers combined.
Infuse it into this very minute and see what happens.
I bet it will create and even more magnificent energy.
That, to me, is what makes summertime so special."
Friday, July 2, 2010
I don't think you own a home, you own a house. Home is where you are with people who you love and love you back. Poobah is home, Thanksgiving is home, birthday parties are home. The house is simply where you gather.
Isn't this wonderfully appropriate for the July 4th holiday weekend? I think so!
“All the great things are simple, and many can be expressed in a single word: freedom; justice; honor; duty; mercy; hope.” ― Winston Churchill
Wednesday, June 23, 2010
I became unemployed in February 2009 and with that loss of income our family was hit hard by the mortgage crisis. We are working with our lender to modify our loan and I'm hopeful that this will happen, but I have also been very proactive in making the calls, sending in the paperwork, and basically being the squeaky wheel. This is just one aspect of the stress we are all experiencing.
Another is the toll all of this is taking on our relationships, be it marriage, friendships, family, or business associates. When people feel these kinds of pressures, they tend to withdraw and communicate less. With less communication comes confusion and questions. More often than not you find yourself in an uncomfortable situation, a confrontation. Even those of us who handle these situations more easily don't like them but the fact is, a confrontation is merely the warning signal that more communication is needed so understanding can occur. Understanding each other does not mean you will agree, but you can at least see the situation from the perspective of the other.
Take some time to connect and talk. We are all going through these tough times and having many of the same experiences. If you are invited to a barbecue, go. When a girlfriend calls you to join a girls night out, accept the invite. Get out and be with other people, not only will it be a nice distraction from whatever the current crisis is, but you never know, there just might be a connection or opportunity waiting for you!
Wednesday, June 9, 2010
Monday, June 7, 2010
We love pasta but we love to have fun more! Pasta is one of those foods that just naturally lends itself to "playing with your food." I've always wanted to share a single string of pasta with Mason and he's finally old enough to play along. We had a ton of fun trying to get this picture and what I learned above all else, you can't suck pasta, laugh, and keep your eyes open all at the same time!
This all came to be while we were putting Ronzoni Smart Taste pasta to a taste test to see if we could tell the difference between the Ronzoni and regular white pasta. I can't say we could tell a dramatic difference in taste, but it was clear we liked the higher fiber pasta better. The texture was clearly better and it was even better in the few days after we originally cooked it. We love it!
“I wrote this review while participating in a campaign by Mom Central on behalf of Ronzoni and received products necessary to facilitate my candid review and photo contest entry. In addition, I received a gift card to thank me for taking the time to participate.”
Friday, June 4, 2010
Tuesday, June 1, 2010
Here's a picture of our favorite summertime pasta dish, Funky Spaghetti! It's pasta with cherry tomatoes, fresh basil and garlic, olive oil, salt and pepper. So easy, so good, and now with Ronzoni Smart Taste pasta, so good for you!
Friday, May 28, 2010
The biggest mistake people make when using planning calendars is to keep more than one. Keep personal, professional and family items on one calendar. It will help to eliminate scheduling conflicts. Remember, 'the man who wears two watches, never knows the correct time.' This is a big one and one of the most useful. I keep my calendar, the events for three businesses, our family, Dave, and Mason. I use different color pens on my most organized day.
The only exception to this rule is I keep an on line calendar for Dave, Mason, me, and our family events. Doing this means I have to put it on line after I put it in my book, but this way, Dave has a point of reference when he needs to schedule something and can't reach me.
Wednesday, May 26, 2010
Instead of starting and stopping at different levels of activity, you'll save time by making all of your outgoing telephone calls together, taking care of all your errands at once, etc. This is a tough one to stick to when you are a wife, mother, entrepreneur, etc. It can be done but when you find yourself in the middle of two or three things, regroup and pick one to finish, then the next, and so on.
Monday, May 24, 2010
Before you go through the expense of purchasing more file cabinets, folders, etc., take the time to purge all unnecessary paperwork and materials. You don't need to keep everything. Keep in mind, you can likely get most statements if you ever need it, and with most stuff, I emphasize "if."
Friday, May 21, 2010
Wednesday, May 19, 2010
One year ago I did a major declutter and I would like to say that my house is still pristine and clutter free. Not so. We live in our house so it's always in a state of "lived-in" disarray.
Here's my report card:
- Laundry area: B+ Still in good shape with just a little clutter coming and going from the tops of the washer and dryer.
- Bathrooms: B Also in pretty good shape but the main cabinet is collecting things that are coming in while others are not going out.
- Pantry: C This area is tough as it has the most daily activity, from canned/dry goods to plastic containers, it's hard to keep this in good shape. I would say this is the space that needs the most constant attention.
- Guest Room: A This has been the easiest to keep up because we don't use it as often. Now that my office is in this room, we will see how we fare.
Overall, not too bad. I really like living with less. I'm committed to continuing to keep the stuff to a minimum. One really cool upside is I find I'm saving money. As I mindlessly pick something up to purchase, I flash on getting home, where it will go, and do I really need it. Literally, nine times out of ten, the answer is, "No."
Monday, May 17, 2010
After you give a space an overhaul, you have to be diligent about keeping it that way.
- One very good rule is if you bring something it, something needs to go out.
- Another is, if you really aren't going to use it, let it go. And don't save the lotion you love that has a little left in the bottle (you know, the suction pump can't reach it, but if you really worked you could get a few more applications out of it!), toss it and get a new one. This is the kind of stuff that clutter your shelves and cabinets.
- Finally, make it a point to do something that brings order to one of your spaces everyday. you will love the light feeling that comes with less clutter.
Friday, May 14, 2010
This is true for everything:
Pantry items while you cook, use it and put it back.
Your keys, put them in the same place when you come in the door, everyday!
Scissors, once they have a place, put them there when you are done.
Make-up, don't leave it on the sink or counter. After you apply it, put it in your make-up bag and put that in the drawer or cupboard.
You get the point. Put it away when you are finished with it and when you need it next time, you'll know right where it is!
Wednesday, May 12, 2010
Many people go out and buy all kinds of tubs, boxes, baskets, and bowls to organize a space. Don't do it. Wait until you get the space you are working on cleared out, sorted through your stuff, and when you have what you know you're keeping, you'll know what you need to store it in. You'll also have a better understanding of the space you are organizing, it's easy to think it's bigger or smaller after looking at it jam-packed for years. This way, you won't have stuff you can't use, and have to buy the storage containers you actually need.
Monday, May 10, 2010
Wednesday, May 5, 2010
Monday, May 3, 2010
This week is very busy, I'm continuing to stay on top of my declutter project I did a year ago. Decluttering is not one of those things you do one time and you're done. It's an ongoing effort and commitment to keep the piles of stuff off the tables, counters, and shelves in the closets. When I find myself stashing something, I think twice and ask myself, is this something I need to keep and if yes, where does it go? If not, I toss it in the donation bag (yes I have one by the door at all times!), or I toss it in the trash. It's that simple.
I hope you all have a home run kind of week and even if you strike out, know that you will get another chance at bat. Happy Monday!
Wednesday, April 28, 2010
When I start to feel my clutter closing in on me, I start by putting away things on the table, if they don't have a home, I make the choice to keep it or toss it. Next any paper that I can throw away (or recycle as is appropriate) gets tossed. Everything else gets put in one pile and I go through it piece by piece. Right then, I put it where it goes (file, bills to-pay, sign for school or to mail, etc.), and in just minutes I'm done! I wipe the table off, push the chairs in and I already feel like I am more in control and ready to tackle the next space! You can do it, too...just start!
Monday, April 26, 2010
Thursday, April 22, 2010
Monday, April 19, 2010
Just yesterday I pulled a bag out of the pantry and went through the house and easily collected more than 10 things (remember, Give Away Ten A Day?). After I put the stuff that was easy to part with, I walked through again and grabbed three more things, one being a pair of boots that I haven't worn in more than two years but couldn't part with last year. Gone!
I'm going to take you on my refresher and would love it if you would join me and declutter your space a little, too. Call it Spring Cleaning with a twist and Give Away Ten A Day!
Wednesday, April 14, 2010
I have to admit, I've had some serious doubts about whether or not I could reach a six year old about materialism and consumerism, but I believe it's working! The secret seems to be consistency, the say what I mean, mean what I say approach. I've outlasted him and he knows I'm not giving in. For me, the bottom line is that I want Mason to build a strong character based on good moral values and who he is as a person, not what he has.
This will be something we will work together on as long as he is learning and growing, but it is a wonderful thing to work on!
Monday, April 12, 2010
So here's the thing, I'm craving raw food. I want vegetables, cabbage salad, cucumbers, and more! I'm going to go with what my body is asking for...salad, marinated vegetables, and more! I'm lucky, I love fruits, vegetables, and salads. I'm not big on lots of dressing and I'm completely satisfied with a salad as a meal. All of this works in my favor to feed my body for health. Next it would be great if I could start craving rigorous exercise! I'll keep you posted!
Friday, April 9, 2010
Wednesday, April 7, 2010
It has never mattered how much I have to give to others, how much I donate of material or myself to charity, give of my time to our community, worthy causes I've started from nothing or simply participated in some way, I've always managed to focus on the one area of my life where I fell I fail everyday, my weight/body size. Is it really a failure to be twenty pounds overweight?
Yep, twenty. I weigh 175 and somehow believe I should weigh 155. Why? Because some Body Mass Index (BMI) chart says so? No, because I have never felt like I am pretty enough, thin enough, or good enough as long as I don't weigh 155 or wear a size 8 or 10. Pretty, thin, or good enough for what? For whom? For me, I'm the only one who stands in judgement on this issue and I'm done.
This state of enlightenment comes from my one regret in my life. I have never lived with regrets choosing instead to see every experience as a lesson. In March 2008 while in Vietnam with friends, we found ourselves in a French restaurant that was the most amazing place I've ever seen. It displayed a buffet of gorgeous food, immaculate works of art made from food, hand stirred ice cream in bowls made of ice, and so much more. The cost for the buffet was $15.00. Our group was in awe not only at the visual stimulation all around us, but this was amazing food! So they said, I didn't eat with my friends. They did everything they could to talk me into it, even offering to buy my lunch! Here's why I didn't eat. I was on a diet, the Usana program of liquid meals and meal replacement bars. Dave and I started this diet before our trip and it was important to me to lose some weight because I was traveling to Arizona immediately after returning from Vietnam. I had an event to attend and a special dress I wanted to wear. I was committed to dropping the pounds and a few dress sizes prior to the event in Arizona. We also invested $800 for the two of us to lose our unwanted pounds. I lost the weight, wore the dress at the event, and felt like I had succeeded.
Here I am two years later and that lunch buffet in Vietnam still haunts me. I regret not sharing that experience with my friends and enjoying that meal because I am the same weight now that I was that day. So what was it really all for? Nothing. I will never have that experience with my friends and I can guarantee you that I will never pass another one up again. I'm done dieting, no more deprivation, self loathing, and negative self-talk because of a ridiculous twenty pounds.
Instead of the angst of a diet, I vow to make more healthy food choices than not, exercise for the feel-good effects and a long life, and focus more on all the good I have to give! All the good I've already given! As Stuart Smalley would say, "I'm good enough. I'm pretty enough. And doggone it, people like me!" Laughing!
What do you think? Can you not diet and really feel good about yourself right where you are, here and now? Share with me, I want to know how you see this.
Monday, April 5, 2010
School is out for spring break one more day and work isn't feeling the manic-ness of a typical Monday. So with that, we'll take it, enjoy it, and hopefully Tuesday won't feel like our Monday's usually do!
Friday, April 2, 2010
I do a pretty good job of getting rid of things when new things come in, but it's not always immediate. I'm going to be working on my "Give Away 10 A Day" program again and blogging about some of it. I think it's important to recognize the success but also acknowledge the maintenance that is needed to keep up the good work!
Needing to tidy my living space is not all that is making me feel restless. I have something else brewing and I'll share that next week. I think I my girl friends will identify with what I am feeling and how I am taking action. Have a great weekend and welcome to April!
Wednesday, March 31, 2010
Monday, March 29, 2010
Friday, March 26, 2010
Wednesday, March 24, 2010
I want him to realize that good things come to him when he's good, for goodness sake. Not that he has to be good to get something. So I'll keep reinforcing the good in Mason (and there is lots!), and keep correcting the behaviors I feel will set him up for failure later in life. I have way more stick-to-it abilty than he will ever know!
Monday, March 22, 2010
Times are tough right now and I think it's so important to remember that we are not our choices. We certainly are responsible for where we are, but events do not define who we are as people. It is our actions, the way we treat others, and what we give that makes us who we are this very minute, nothing else matters!
Friday, March 19, 2010
My problem is that I do not want to indulge Mason, but by not buying or giving him what he wants, he feels like it's a punishment. I don't want this to be about him being "bad," he's not bad, he's wonderful, he just needs to realize that he doesn't need to constantly be acquiring things to be happy. I'll keep on the loving lesson and let you know how it pans out!
Wednesday, March 17, 2010
This is not the first time I've witnessed this in Mason, but it really struck me that Mason is forming an early addiction to acquisition. He has a room full of toys that he doesn't want to play with and even when he gets a new game, his interest in playing it is minimal. It's time for an intervention. I'm going to go a full 30 days without buying Mason anything, no toys, gum, candy, nothing that is an impulse purchase. He will have what he needs and we will use what we have. I don't know if 30 days is enough time to make a difference, but it's a good starting point to see what happens. I'll post a weekly update and let you know what I learn.
Monday, March 15, 2010
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Monday, March 1, 2010
- A student in Warren G. Tracy's class, entrepreneur
Wow! No kidding. Define, "few." Laughing! What do you think? What are you doing today to live the rest of you life the way you dream about?
Friday, February 26, 2010
Do you remember playing in the rain as a child? I do! It didn't matter that it was cold, or that the water in the gutters was dirty, there was just something magical about playing in the rain. Add to the joy a rainbow and you've got an experience you're not soon to forget! Heck, it's been 37 years since I was a 6 year old girl playing in the rain and seeing Mason today, well, it makes me feel like I am that same 6 year old girl all over again!
The heart of Intentional Winning in Life is being happy, truly happy from the bottom of your heart. When you feel joy, you emit a vibration that brings joy from everything you do. Seeing happiness in something as simple as playing in the rain is just one little piece of the big picture that makes up your happy life!
Wednesday, February 24, 2010
This morning I sat on the Ventura boardwalk curb with my feet in the sand, journal on my lap, and watched surfers glide on baby waves in the beautiful Pacific Ocean. I needed to write, needed to cry, and desperately needed to release my pent-up anger and frustration that I’d been carrying for the last two weeks.
Fresh were the wounds of my recent move, where my professional moving company took negligent and scandalous care of our belongings by overcharging, classic bait n switch, “losing” irreplaceable memorabilia, damaging and destroying 75% of our possessions, and downright stealing certain things, one of which was our $450 Stainless Steel Sonoma BBQ Grill. The fight I would have to take to them for vindication required exhausting time and money; neither of which I had extra to donate at the moment as I got back on my feet in a new city.
I’d been robbed six times in the past at varying degrees, and every time that gut-wrenching feeling of violation is like taking a punch to the stomach. It hurts a lot and will knock the wind out of ya. As I pondered the meaning of abundance and being able to replace many of the belongings someday, the hate welled up and toppled over my eyelids in the form of tears at the feeling of helplessness. Bad people had planned to take advantage of me, and they continue doing so to others. I wanted to punish them.
At my side was a book I’d grabbed to bring with me to the beach for post-run meditation. When I had thrown it in the car with my running gear and journal, it hadn’t crossed my mind why that exact book ended up with me at the beach; it had not been a conscious decision. Now I wiped the tears from my eyes, focused on it and gasped. Sitting next to me was Viktor Frankl’s, “Man’s Search For Meaning”, a tattered and yellowing paperback copy that had altered the way I viewed life, purpose and suffering.
Frankl was a Jewish Author-Psychiatrist who endured the Nazi death camps during World War II. He watched all his possessions, including life’s work manuscript, stripped from him, and his entire family and wife, excepting his sister, perish in the camps and sent to the gas ovens. Through this life-changing account of absolute injustice, hunger and cruelty, he volunteers himself as his own experiment to examine suffering and the true meaning of existence. He boils life down to the very essence, and while not even having control of his own naked and starving body, he still is responsible for the thoughts he thinks and how he chooses to perceive life; Exist with hate, apathy and anger for the horrific misery he and his family/friends and Jewish people undergo, or find meaning in what most perceived as senseless suffering.
At that moment I started laughing on the beach, which caused nearby dosing homeless guys to pick up their heads and give me a half glance. I couldn’t have scripted better irony than this! Here I was, a blessed woman in my prime, my brand new house minutes from beautiful beaches and living a charmed life; I was crying over my lost barbeque when courageous people like Viktor Frankl had endured such suffering! As I gazed at his face on the book I could hear his words to me, “Let it go, Amie,” and I agreed with him.
One of my favorite spiritual leaders is Lester Levenson, and he said, “Peace is non resistance, complete acceptance, identification with the all, with everyone, everything.” I had been resisting like a crazy woman and hurting myself in the meanwhile, and what came with it was more negativity, tension and bad news. We all know what you resist persists…and I was so ready to live in peace.
Was it possible I set up this lesson for myself so I could learn to let go, release, and not be attached to anything? My beliefs take me down the road of reincarnation and pre-ordaining (not pre-destination, as free will is sacred) opportunities and signs along the way in life to evolve as a human being through the contrast of good and bad experiences. If so, ouch! My soul must be a little dense learning and re-learning through remedial courses this time around…
Buddha says, “You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger.” My un-checked emotions had taken me over and I lost awareness of how it affected everything I was doing and being.
It caused me to contemplate the last 24 months of my whirlwind life, and as I did so I realized I had already let go of so many things: unhealthy friendships, poor business relationships, two companies of which I poured my lifeblood into, a network that took me 10 years to build, credit/cash, and family members who passed away. Letting go = freedom. Attachments and aversions = pain. What do I want to feel? Like Frankl learned in the Nazi concentration camps… your mind is the only place you can find freedom, it is not in our external situations.
“Everything can be taken from a man or a woman but one thing: the last of human freedoms to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way.” -- Viktor Frankl
With the sun on my face and healing seabreeze in the air, every wave the surfers caught and rode, a little more of my anger was released with each and went out with the tide. I choose to be free.
Visionary. Teacher. Fearless Leader.