March is All About Luck

Do you feel lucky? Do you think you're lucky? Yes or no, whatever you think, you're right!

With New Year resolutions, January was about health and fitness. Valentines Day in February made the logical topic relationships and love, so it makes sense to spend the month of March with St. Patrick's Day talking about luck.

I'm lucky. I always have been, in fact, it never occurred to me that I should be anything other than lucky. For me, luck starts with gratitude and gratitude is an attitude. When you are grateful, you tend to be appreciative of all things that you perceive as good. The more you give thanks for, the more you notice you have to be grateful for. It's a wonderful cycle.

What do you think, are you lucky? Do things seem to go your way? Even if they don't, can you see something good that comes from seemingly unfortunate events in your life? This will be a fun month and hopefully, you will ring in April with a whole new outlook on luck and your life.

From My Personal Journal

July 2001 in the "Relationships" section of my goals and plans for my life I wrote:

Simply Stated: I am participating in a wonderful loving marriage. We support and nourish each other and have a communication line that is clean and clear.

1 Year: I have drawn to me the man who fuels me and I just light him up! We know we are forever and we are making plans.

3 Years: We are happily married and have specific plans for our life together. We are learning and growing. We have multiple properties and deciding about our family.

What I'm doing today: I am living my life - having fun, meeting new people. I am paying attention to who I am surrounding myself with. I am being me, knowing I am not only enough, but wonderful and unique. I am listening and paying attention. I believe I can have all I desire and it will be wonderful!

I came across this old journal the other day while cleaning house. I couldn't help browsing it. When I read this section and realized it had not only come true almost to the letter, I smiled even bigger seeing that the universe did everything on my speed setting; faster than I planned!

Dave and I started dating in September 2001. We were engaged (and secretly married) in December 2001. We planned our wedding for November 2002, and Mason was born in October 2003. Though we don't "own" multiple properties, we do own one and have several others available to us that we didn't have in July of 2001. So there you go, to journal or not to journal? I think it's a silly question.

If you dream about it, write it down, draw pictures of what you see in your head, plan how you can behave now to get where you want to be tomorrow. It works. I believe!

Relate Up!

As I get older, I understand the importance of relating up. This means that I strategically place myself at the bottom of the totem pole and surround myself with the people I want to learn from and be like.

As young people this is difficult. Our egos get in the way and we want to be the one in charge, the top of the totem pole. When you do this two things happen; first, you have nowhere to go. How fun is any endeavor if you have nothing to learn? Second, your energy is constantly being tapped by those who (hopefully) want to be like you, often times leaving you nothing for yourself.

So think about this every time you find yourself in a social setting, or looking for a new job. Seek out those people who have what you want in life and befriend them. Learn what it is that they do in their day to day life, and you will see that before long you are doing many of the same things. "Do" is the most important part of any plan, get to the "do" and you will "have." Soon you will be drawing more and more of this calibre individual (or group) to you and living the life of your dreams.

Special note: Happy Birthday mom! Enjoy your day.

Let's Take Stock

All month we have been looking at all of our relationships and which ones really serve us. What have you discovered? I remember going through this process for the first time and how difficult it was. What I can tell you for sure is this, once you start to evaluate each of your relationships individually, on their own merit, you will start to create an amazing sphere of energy in your life.

What this means is that I don't put my relationships in categories like family, friends, coworkers, acquaintances. Every person in my life has their own special place, purpose, and priority. The more I pick and choose good, high energy people to surround me, the more people I have high on my priority list.

Here is what I suggest, make a list of all the people in your life. One by one, go down the list and evaluate each one for the purpose of making sure you have great, bright, white light surrounding you. If you don't, think about what you can do to improve that relationship. If the good outweighs the bad, stay. If the bad outweighs the good, there is something better for you around the corner. This is a powerful exercise, yet it's one that will change your life if you do it honestly. Are you ready? Things are about to get good, really good!

Take Some Notes

This sure hasn't been the week for stimulating conversation. I hope all these hours I have been sleeping with the flu count toward my "sleep reserves" for later. Sheesh!

As you know we have been looking at relationships this month and how we can choose, groom, and thrive in only the healthiest ones. What have you done in your life to recognize the not so good ones, and fuel the healthy ones? Make some notes or keep a journal and it won't be long before you can see the "muck," before you agree to a lunch date.

It seems easy to know what we don't want, so take a moment to write down the things you DO want. What do you want in work relationships? How would you like things to be with your family? What about love? Start to focus on the the way you want things to be, write it all down, and you will be amazed how the stuff you don't want starts to fall away. Keep me posted!

Support Is So Important

So here I am with the flu. I'm looking my absolute worst, and feeling even lower than that, and my husband couldn't be kinder.

We've had issues with being compassionate when each other is ill, but it seems we have overcome this as well. I've come to the conclusion that we see each other as strong and independant, so when we are down, it is foreign territory. We tend to be of the "suck it up" mindset, instead of "I'm so sorry you're not feeling well. Is there anything I can do?"

After a sweet phone call from Dave, I went back to sleep knowing I couldn't be in a more loving environment.

You Don't Get to Choose Your Family

For better or worse, your family members are who they are.

For me, the reality is that we are related through blood, but we are also individual human beings who may not always agree on how we want to live. I have a relatively large family and most of us get along famously. I also have a few members of my family that I would rather not acknowledge as related to me. I know that sounds bad, but these individuals have made life choices that are completely out of my realm of reality.

Just like at work or in love, I have very strong ideas about the kind of energy I want in my life. It doesn't matter if you are related to me, if you are practicing unethical and/or illegal behavior, I don't want any part of it. I don't want it for me, my family, or my friends.

I have had lengthy conversations with people about this and the consensus is if someone is your family, you have to love and live with them no matter what. I simply do not agree. It makes me a little sad that I don't have the Leave it to Beaver family of the 1950s, but it is what it is, and I am making the best family I can for Dave and Mason.